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WHY SOME SINGLES STAY SINGLE LONGER THAN NECESSARY
Single hood is a phase, it isn't meant to last forever. In fact let me share some scriptures about Marriage and it's proper season.
Psalms 127:4 "As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are CHILDREN OF THE YOUTH."
Proverbs 5:18 "Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the WIFE OF THY YOUTH"
Isaiah 54:6 "For the LORD hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a WIFE OF YOUTH.."
Joel 1:8 "..... a virgin girded with sackcloth for the HUSBAND OF HER YOUTH."
So why does it appear that we have singles becoming PhD holders in Single Hood Ministry. Let's talk.
(1) SETTING UNREALISTIC GOALS..
"I must own a house in Dubia before I get Married"
"If I haven't gotten my PhD, no Marriage for me."
Every goal you set for yourself must be Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time bound,
Some young Men and Women are still in the single market today simply because they have unrealistic goals that they have set out to achieve before they will agree to get married, and and even when a Fine God fearing Brother or Sister is dancing around them, unrealistic goals wee nor allow them see road. wedding outfits for mature women
Some are simply suffering from their past wrongs, having broken several hearts, cheated ladies, jilted guys, or carried out certain actions, they are now reaping what they have sown.
Others are under curses and need to come to Jesus to get saved and delivered, (whether you chose to believe the existence of such or not, changes nothing)
This category of people will need Prayers to be free.
Some people's character, can kill, literarily
Some ladies are beautiful indeed, but their characters are ugly indeed indeed.
Character that even the devil will complain about.
Shape is good,
Beauty is important,
But Character is importanter
Some guys and their Character,
little wonder no lady stays in a relationship with them for more than one month. Some do not even have one single romantic bone in their bodies, No wonder they are still Single, Who loves nonsense?
You will see some 25 year old ladies, you will think they are 52.
I sat close to one lady laidat one day, the odor that was oozing from the hair on her head, brethren and sisthren, it nearly damaged my smell sense.
Sir, you can't wear red suit, red tie and red shoe, you can't, even the people they call Red Indians don't dress laidiat.
As a young Man, You wear bathroom slippers even to church service, and you think Jane will jump at your proposal.
Many Christians think Packaging is carnal, Iz a lie, i repeat, iz a lie,
They applied perfume to the body of Jesus before he resurrected, is it you that is now alive that will forbid perfume and body cream, and you want to marry this year,
(5) FAMILY TRADITIONS
"The younger one can not marry before the elder one"
"you must train your younger ones in school first"
Expensive Dowries and long lists is another big obstacle in some parts of this country, this has kept many eligible Ladies in their "fathers house" as the young Men who are interested in them may not be very buoyant to cough up such amount.
(6) FEAR OF MARRIAGE
Yes, some singles actually fear the thought of getting Married, this is especially common among the Male folks,
See them at weddings na, they have good jobs, are handsome, mature but let the groom throw the flower in their direction, see them running away like somebody shouted "boko haram".
Some Celebrities are guilty of this, they instead opt for Baby Mama's.
(7) PLAYING GAMES
Some are still playing games, chasing women even as their age slowly grows like the quantity of dead leaves on a forest floor grows over time,
(8) UNREASONABLE STANDARDS/BEING TOO SELECTIVE
Nobody is perfect,
keep searching for Mr/Mrs Perfect and see all your mates get married and leave you in the single market.
He must be handsome, God fearing, tall, have beards, earn 300,000 every month, have a house, own a car, be romantic, he must know how to cook,I won't cook for him, Aunty, Edakun.
She must be beautiful, figure 8, have flesh, perfect teeth, good character, must be submissive, must know how to pound yam, yen yen yen.
Bros, kontinu, you have pass 40 already, but don't worry, just kontinu.
Some Peoples standard, only Jesus can meet it. And Jesus is not now here to marry them, so you see why they are still Single.
(9) SOLITARY LIFESTYLE
Everyone or Most People want someone that is at least a little social, not weird weird isolated.
Carrying out Lifestyles or behaviors that that isolate you from the crowd or behaving in ways that drive people away from you won't help matters. (PS: there's a big difference between being Different and being Mad)
(10) "MY MARRIAGE MUST BE BIG" SPIRIT
There's no award for most expensive wedding,
You must not get married wearing the most expensive wedding gown or suit , if you have found somebody that loves you and is willing to settle down with you, please manage what you have and get Married.
In fact with proper management you can still have a great wedding ceremony at a not too extravagant cost.
(11) PLAYING HARD TO GET
"Some people have become impossible to get while they were busy playing hard to get" - Musa Gift.
(12) GOD'S TIMING
Being Single isn't same as having a disease
Do not become desperate to quit single hood that you make wrong decisions and end up in the wrong hands.
I pray for somebody out there who is long overdue for Marriage.
Whether they like it or not ;
Your Wedding will Hold.
Your Marriage will work.